I bet you are wondering what in the hell I am
talking about when I write my marriage never had a song. After all, what does music have to do with a marriage? I would have never have admitted to anyone the emptiness in my marriage if I would have never heard the song by Brett Eldredge “I want to be that song” .
I want to be that song
Tears immediately welled up in my eyes and there are no words to express how I felt at that moment. I realized that my impending divorce was good for me because the emptiness I felt in my heart came flooding out as I was weeping behind the wheel listening to this song on the way to the grocery store. This song had unlocked emotions that I had buried inside and ignored because my marriage lacked romance and a whirlwind love when two souls meet.
What hurt going through my separation- I found out that my (ex)husband actually had a nice voice, a gift for writing songs, and a talent for strumming the guitar. Not once did he ever serenade me with a love song to make my heart beat with love and jump for joy. Maybe if he would have… mybe then I would have fallen in love with him as my true love or soul mate instead of the father of our son, the father of his daughters, and a step father to my oldest son.
Music is the connection of two souls who fall in love
I had a song or two from passionate love affairs in my younger days. Music can bring people together and my marriage never had that. We never even listened to music together nor did he ever strum his guitar for me. It made me sad that my marriage never had a song. We never shared that moment when you hear a song and remember where you were, who you were with, and how you felt as the song played…
My marriage never had a song
I found out toward the end of my marriage that he was playing and writing songs. I admit I hid the disappointment and anger that he hid this one trait that I find sexy in a man. After all, which he did not really know, I dated several musicians who swept me off my feet in a whirlwind romances. I once thought I found a song but realize now I made a complete fool of myself because he never even acknowledged my excitement and brushed it off with an “okay”.
Does your marriage have a song?
Tell me what it is and how does it make you feel? I have a few songs from my past that still remind me of the days when falling in love made my heart flutter and my knees weak. Remember the song “Lady in Red” that was one song dedicated to a relationship over 30 years ago. If you love your partner, find that song and sing it together. Dance to it. Be happy in the minutes it plays and remind each other how much you love each other.
If I ever fall in love again, there will be a song.
C Renee
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tears flowing, this is beautiful <3 I would wish you luck on new journey but you don't need luck, I will give you love and support instead. I know you will find that song <3 <3 I love you my dear friend!!!!! Bobbi
Thank you as tears fill my eyes because sometimes you find out in life what is missing when it is too late. but new beginnings are here and I do think I will find ‘that song’ <3 and kisses
Your words are beautiful and moving. May the next chapter in your life bring you happiness and great rewards. And yes…there will be a song.
Thank you! I know there will be because I am living my life, albeit with a bit of fear, but with my dreams as the guide!
I always thought of the song we danced to at our wedding as our song. But I now realize that’s different from our marriage having a song. I’m going to have to think about this one.
I will be writing about this subject – I never had wedding with a dance either. My marriage was empty and you never find out until it is too late but we have a son who inspires me to live the life I have dreamt. So I cannot look back and be sad but look forward and know never to settle. Thanks for stopping!
Music is such a wonderful connection to many experiences in one’s life. I know that hubby and I don’t have a specific song, however, we both enjoy the same songs and often times will just sit on a Friday night listen to music and reminisce. Even though your ex-husband didn’t serenade you with one of his own songs, it’s possible there’s a song out there that may remind you of your time with him. Sounds like he may have been a little shy with sharing his talent. Every girl wants to be romanced; hope you find your song.
I love different music according to my mood but the music my husband listens to is not uplifting or music to my ears. He put away his music and other things after his 1st divorce. We did not have a lot in common and after the kids are gone you have to have something holding you together and we didn’t.
But I will find my ‘song’ one day and until then I am living life my way. thank you for stopping
This brought tears to my eyes, too. How cold that marriage must have been. You will find that song and may you also find everlasting love.
Thank you. We just never had that romantic bond or love that many couples have- not a fantasy type of love- but a deep understanding of who you are with. Thank you for stopping and the song still brings a tear to my eye
So beautiful! We do have a song. Several in fact. Hugs!
XOXOXOXO thank you!
This is a beautiful post. “Lady In Red” is just one of many of my husband’s and my love songs. We have been together 33 years. Many ups and downs along the way but somehow we always end feeling so happy together.
Thank you for reading! Congrats on 33 years and cheers to many many more
I just asked my husband if we had a song – his reply was that we have vastly different musical tastes so why would we have “a song”? He says I need to stop reading blog posts because they cause trouble (that was tongue in cheek) but now I’m going to harrass him until he comes up with a song! I agree with Karen that we had a wedding song but I don’t think it’s the song of our marriage. (My husband used to be a DJ and played songs for me back in the day – but that was a LONG time ago!)
hahahahaha at least you have a wedding song <3
Aghhhh just left a really long comment and it timed out!! WordPress and I seem to hate each other lately. Just wanted to say that I asked my hub if we had “a song” and he said “no, why would we? our musical tastes are vastly different”. So much for the romance! We did have a wedding song, but like Karen, it’s not our “marriage song” I’ll have to harass him now until he comes up with one 🙂
find a song for your anniversary 🙂
A beautiful piece and I wish you the best on your new adventure
Karen
THANK YOU! I am ready to begin