I bet you are wondering what in the hell I am talking about when I write my marriage never had a song. After all, what does music have to do with a marriage? I would have never have admitted to anyone the emptiness in my marriage if I would have never heard the song by Brett Eldredge “I want to be that song” .
I want to be that song
Tears immediately welled up in my eyes and there are no words to express how I felt at that moment. I realized that my impending divorce was good for me because the emptiness I felt in my heart came flooding out as I was weeping behind the wheel listening to this song on the way to the grocery store. This song had unlocked emotions that I had buried inside and ignored because my marriage lacked romance and a whirlwind love when two souls meet.
What hurt going through my separation- I found out that my (ex)husband actually had a nice voice, a gift for writing songs, and a talent for strumming the guitar. Not once did he ever serenade me with a love song to make my heart beat with love and jump for joy. Maybe if he would have… mybe then I would have fallen in love with him as my true love or soul mate instead of the father of our son, the father of his daughters, and a step father to my oldest son.
Music is the connection of two souls who fall in love
I had a song or two from passionate love affairs in my younger days. Music can bring people together and my marriage never had that. We never even listened to music together nor did he ever strum his guitar for me. It made me sad that my marriage never had a song. We never shared that moment when you hear a song and remember where you were, who you were with, and how you felt as the song played…
My marriage never had a song
I found out toward the end of my marriage that he was playing and writing songs. I admit I hid the disappointment and anger that he hid this one trait that I find sexy in a man. After all, which he did not really know, I dated several musicians who swept me off my feet in a whirlwind romances. I once thought I found a song but realize now I made a complete fool of myself because he never even acknowledged my excitement and brushed it off with an “okay”.
Does your marriage have a song?
Tell me what it is and how does it make you feel? I have a few songs from my past that still remind me of the days when falling in love made my heart flutter and my knees weak. Remember the song “Lady in Red” that was one song dedicated to a relationship over 30 years ago. If you love your partner, find that song and sing it together. Dance to it. Be happy in the minutes it plays and remind each other how much you love each other.
If I ever fall in love again, there will be a song.
On with Life at 50 Where Fabulous Knows No Age
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